Archive for 2015
A Tamasha called life !
Imitiaz Ali is undoubtedly one of the finest filmmakers of our time. His stories are complex, chaotic and keeps you wondering for a long long time. We are so conditioned to happy endings that Rockstar made me all twitchy and troubled inside. Thankfully, Tamasha had a happy ending and I had a sigh of relief. Tamasha has had pretty polarized views and I understand why. There are many layers to the movies and personally, I loved the movie because I live with those concepts on a daily basis. I watched the movie recently and I am still soaking in the beauty of the movie.
The cost price of success
Success is something you think you should have so that the
world approves of you. In today’s world, the route to success is divided into
three parts:
1.
You work your way to success
2.
You lick your way to success
3.
You sleep your way to success
I had the notion that MBA would propel my
career to greater heights. It’d definitely do that but the trade off in return
is something huge. And it’s not the regular you don’t get to sleep, you have
nine subjects per semester, you have assignments kind of banter. It is way
beyond all that. You suddenly find yourself in a bevy of strange, unknown
people you know nothing about. The first few months would be all about
adaptability and fitting in. If you’re lucky, you find a group to eat, hangout
and watch movies with. If you’re luckier, you make your own group and induct
people into it. Else, you’re just a minority, someone who doesn’t fit in or
doesn’t want to fit in.
The next few months would be all about
getting to know each other. ‘Networking’ as per the B school norm. You network because you never know who might
come in handy in near future. You form opinions, make friends, have conflicts,
appear for exams and get the hang of a B school. Once the storm sets in, you
figure out who your real friends, who your fake friends are, who is out and out
plastic and who is truly genuine.
Personally, my journey has been a learning
experience like no other. I had to leave my comfort zone, my people and Hyderabadi biryani all in the name of
success. If I wouldn't have been here, I wouldn't have known how it feels to be
let down by an alleged friend, how there’s always more than what meets the eye,
how it feels to be under constant scrutiny, how first impressions are lasting
impressions, how people behave under tremendous pressure, what it feels to be
in the middle of a rat race and how a dog eats a dog.
MBA is
not only a shortcut to success, it is also a transformative journey of personal
growth. A journey that helps you rediscover your own self. But the real
question is, is it really worth the trade off?
Illusion
"People don’t like love, they like that flittery flirty feeling. They don’t love love - love is sacrificial, love is ferocious, it’s not emotive. Our culture doesn’t love love, it loves the idea of love. It wants the emotion without paying anything for it. It’s ridiculous." —Matt Chandler
Shah Rukh Khan made all the 90s kids believe in the magic of love and damaged their brains for eternity. But now, as an adult, I know better. I know that Raj was an optical illusion. I know that love is this undefined, bizarre, complex emotion that no one can put into words.
We have all been conditioned to believe in the comfortable concept of love. But with each passing day, I see its significance fade away piece by piece. I used to be a firm believer of love and other drugs. This very belief of mine is now just a fictional entity.
Hoping for a soulmate in our world is like a mirage of the oasis. Virtues like loyalty, integrity, honesty have lost its meaning and all we are left with is treachery, dishonesty and greed.
With more options comes more difficulties. Everyone around is viable and available, so why would anyone go and do the right thing.
In the past, things were simpler. Get a twig and brush your teeth. Now, there’s a host of complexities involved. Go to a supermarket. Choose between a colgate, a pepsodent, a sensodyne, a close up or a cibaca. Each, a viable option. Each would solve your purpose. So, would you ever stick to a particular brand for years at a stretch ?
We don’t. We yearn for a change. We need variety. We desire more options. We feel inquisitive. We want to ‘explore’.
When we cannot stick to a particular toothpaste for the rest of our lives, is it even possible to pin down a soulmate and stick to them for eternity inspite of the viable options out there ? Is it possible for a person to be content with a single person for the rest of their lives ?
Human needs are satiable but human greed is insatiable. I always thought that every person deep down yearns for stability and when you have that one person, it’s good enough. But the stories I witness, the people I meet have different tales to tell. Everyone’s interested in having their share of ‘fun’ while they are at it and get back to their routine lives. Human wants vary. You want someone for companionship. You want someone as a friend. You want someone to be intimate with. You want someone to be a shoulder to cry on. You want someone for the conversations. And all these someones might be different people altogether.
True love happens only in the Nicholas Sparks novels while we mortals need to deal with the real thing. Love, even as a concept, has lost its meaning. And in these dark times, if you do find someone to love and be loved back, preserve them. It’s not the happy ending that counts, what happens after that is the more pertinent question.
Mere ramblings. No apologies :)
Mere ramblings. No apologies :)