Archive for 2015

A Tamasha called life !

Imitiaz Ali is undoubtedly one of the finest filmmakers of our time. His stories are complex, chaotic and keeps you wondering for a long long time. We are so conditioned to happy endings that Rockstar made me all twitchy and troubled inside. Thankfully, Tamasha had a happy ending and I had a sigh of relief. Tamasha has had pretty polarized views and I understand why. There are many layers to the movies and personally, I loved the movie because I live with those concepts on a daily basis. I watched the movie recently and I am still soaking in the beauty of the movie.

Social Construct - The protagonist in an Imitiaz Ali movie is usually a rebel against the societal norms. Meet Ved Vardhan Sahni, a regular guy with the heart of a storyteller. He intends to be a rebel from the bottom of his heart, but his social conditioning doesn't allow him to deviate from the norm. Ved atleast knew what his true calling was so he could act upon it. The social construct is for people who are clueless as to what is their true calling. We can all critique the formula based life, but if there wasn't a formula to fall back on, what would so many people without a true calling do in life ? All of us cannot just sit and watch the grass grow till we finally get enlightened. In my opinion, social construct is ok for those who voluntarily choose it.


Being in love with the idea of another person - Why is it that the unfulfilled love stories are the most haunting ones ? 'What could have been' is a question that can make a permanent dent in your heart. That's probably because that love story is untouched by monotony. Enter Tara Maheshwari, who falls for the image projection of Ved. Post the Corsica trip, for four consecutive years, her thoughts revolved around him. You cannot know a person in a couple of days, it was her idea of Ved, her perception, her projection that she fell in love with. This is the case with so many of us. We fall in love with the imagery of the person that we create in our minds and suffer major disappointment when the person doesn't live up to our idea of him/her.
"I fall in and out of love everyday".
"With people ?"
"Mostly ideas of them. People only reveal themselves in pieces. Naturally, we fill in the gaps, the unknown, with what we want them to be. That's why love can be deceiving."
- Amanda Torroni


Life is a race - The monotony of Ved puts every salaried guy to shame. We see that this is actually what we do on a day to day life. It's so much of a routine that we seldom try and break the monotony of our fragile existence. Just like Ved, there have been days when I want to climb on top of the office table and break into a song and dance routine ! We have been raised to believe that life is a race. 90%, engineering, onsite, MBA, package, appraisal, spouse hunting, the list is endless. The good part is that Ved finally steps out of it and excels in his bizzare storytelling talent. It was a "taare Zameen par' moment for me !


Saccha Pyaar - Imitiaz ends up giving us our fair share of love dose with Tara and Ved in Corsica. Ved finds someone who shares his passion for weirdness and is equally mental. Back in India, Tara is hit by the monotony of Ved's life. Something that she wasn't expecting. yet she comes to terms with it and is all accepting of him. Her warmth will melt your heart and make you pine for love. The part where she hugs him and tries to hold onto him with the 'agar tum saath ho' song in the background is an epic Imitaz Ali moment. The romance in his movies is surreal. But then, saccha pyaar is an urban legend or the real deal is a different story altogether.


Maths padho, Engineering karo - This maths mayhem has a traumatizing childhood experience for zillions. And if you're ok with science and maths, it's like it's your destiny to pursue engineering. In case you aren't doing well in those subjects, you were born to pursue arts or maybe law. At the age of 18, we aren't equipped enough to make life altering decisions. A lucky few like Ved atleast have the clarity of thought but most of us aren't grown up enough to care. That's how you get a country bustling with engineers, most of which are unemployable.


Role Playing - I have got life lessons from close quarters which revolved around role playing. I was told that in order to succeed, you have to play a character. You cannot be yourself. You fake it till you make it. But you are not the role you're playing. With Ved, the role he's playing in his daily life becomes all consuming and he becomes the role he plays. In our lives, the role of a dutiful child, diligent employee, loving spouse, doting parent, kandha for friends etc. surpasses our individual self whereas the real deal is to discover ourselves in the chaos of role playing and shine on like Ved did in Corsica. 


I am lucky to have witnessed a live interview of Imitiaz Ali. He came to Bombay to become a writer. Someone from the audience asked him why he doesn't write books instead. He replied that books are very literal. Movies give him a landscape where things can be left for interpretation. I am glad he does that in all his movies : leaves room for imagination.


Mere Ramblings, No Apologies.


The cost price of success

Success is something you think you should have so that the world approves of you. In today’s world, the route to success is divided into three parts:
1.       You work your way to success
2.       You lick your way to success
3.       You sleep your way to success

I had the notion that MBA would propel my career to greater heights. It’d definitely do that but the trade off in return is something huge. And it’s not the regular you don’t get to sleep, you have nine subjects per semester, you have assignments kind of banter. It is way beyond all that. You suddenly find yourself in a bevy of strange, unknown people you know nothing about. The first few months would be all about adaptability and fitting in. If you’re lucky, you find a group to eat, hangout and watch movies with. If you’re luckier, you make your own group and induct people into it. Else, you’re just a minority, someone who doesn’t fit in or doesn’t want to fit in.
The next few months would be all about getting to know each other. ‘Networking’ as per the B school norm.  You network because you never know who might come in handy in near future. You form opinions, make friends, have conflicts, appear for exams and get the hang of a B school. Once the storm sets in, you figure out who your real friends, who your fake friends are, who is out and out plastic and who is truly genuine.

Personally, my journey has been a learning experience like no other. I had to leave my comfort zone, my people  and Hyderabadi biryani all in the name of success. If I wouldn't have been here, I wouldn't have known how it feels to be let down by an alleged friend, how there’s always more than what meets the eye, how it feels to be under constant scrutiny, how first impressions are lasting impressions, how people behave under tremendous pressure, what it feels to be in the middle of a rat race and how a dog eats a dog.
MBA is not only a shortcut to success, it is also a transformative journey of personal growth. A journey that helps you rediscover your own self. But the real question is, is it really worth the trade off?



Illusion



"People don’t like love, they like that flittery flirty feeling. They don’t love love - love is sacrificial, love is ferocious, it’s not emotive. Our culture doesn’t love love, it loves the idea of love. It wants the emotion without paying anything for it. It’s ridiculous." —Matt Chandler

Shah Rukh Khan made all the 90s kids believe in the magic of love and damaged their brains for eternity. But now, as an adult, I know better. I know that Raj was an optical illusion. I know that love is this undefined, bizarre, complex emotion that no one can put into words.


We have all been conditioned to believe in the comfortable concept of love. But with each passing day, I see its significance fade away piece by piece. I used to be a firm believer of love and other drugs. This very belief of mine is now just a fictional entity.
Hoping for a soulmate in our world is like a mirage of the oasis. Virtues like loyalty, integrity, honesty have lost its meaning and all we are left with is treachery, dishonesty and greed.
With more options comes more difficulties. Everyone around is viable and available, so why would anyone go and do the right thing.  


In the past, things were simpler. Get a twig and brush your teeth. Now, there’s a host of complexities involved. Go to a supermarket. Choose between a colgate, a pepsodent, a sensodyne, a close up or a cibaca. Each, a viable option. Each would solve your purpose. So, would you ever stick to a particular brand for years at a stretch ?
We don’t. We yearn for a change. We need variety. We desire more options. We feel inquisitive. We want to ‘explore’.


When we cannot stick to a particular toothpaste for the rest of our lives, is it even possible to pin down a soulmate and stick to them for eternity inspite of the viable options out there ? Is it possible for a person to be content with a single person for the rest of their lives ?


Human needs are satiable but human greed is insatiable. I always thought that every person deep down yearns for stability and when you have that one person, it’s good enough. But the stories I witness, the people I meet have different tales to tell. Everyone’s interested in having their share of ‘fun’ while they are at it and get back to their routine lives. Human wants vary. You want someone for companionship. You want someone as a friend. You want someone to be intimate with. You want someone to be a shoulder to cry on. You want someone for the conversations. And all these someones might be different people altogether.

True love happens only in the Nicholas Sparks novels while we mortals need to deal with the real thing. Love, even as a concept, has lost its meaning. And in these dark times, if you do find someone to love and be loved back, preserve them. It’s not the happy ending that counts, what happens after that is the more pertinent question.

Mere ramblings. No apologies :)